Who Completes You?
Happy Valentine’s Day, friends! I hope you are feeling the love today (and always). However, I know sometimes it can hard to celebrate something that somehow feels like a void in your life. For whatever reason or experience you may have had. But, I just wanted to give these words of encouragement for anyone not feeling Valentine’s Day. I don’t even know the whole history of where this holiday. Still, I think giving a different perspective on love can probably help you focus on something other than pain or loneliness, or whatever feeling you are feeling today.
Personally, I have realized self-love is way more important than having someone to love. For many years I struggled with self-love. I loved God, had a wonderful husband, and two beautiful kids, and you would think that loving myself was not an issue. But let me tell you, happiness is not that simple. That special someone in your life does not complete you. The infamous line “you complete me” in the Jerry Maguire movie is misleading! News flash, Hollywood lied!
When David and I got married (or eloped, I should say), we were super young, but we also had a lot of personal baggage. Getting married didn’t fix those things, and it actually amplified a lot of issues. And for me personally, it was insecurity. Unknowingly I was expecting my husband will fill all these things in my life that no person is humanly able to do. I will leave out all the ugly details, but we ended up getting counseling. It was one of the best things we could have ever done for ourselves. We went to a counselor who had a ministry called Heart Change Counseling. I love that name so much! Because that’s precisely what happened to both of us on a personal level.
I tell you all this because I want you to know that there is no one or anything that can fill voids in your life. Your completeness and wholeness can only be found in Christ alone! He should be what completes every part of your life. He fills you if you feel lonely, He fills you if you feel sad, He feels you when you feel at your worst. Everything else is a complement to the wholeness you have in God. There is no way your parent, friends, spouse, girl/boyfriend can make you feel complete. Yes, when you love someone, they fill your life and bring so much joy, but completeness is different. It’s the even though attitude that makes the difference, because even though you don’t have (fill in the blank), you have personal joy and satisfaction in Christ. He is the one that never fails!
So today, focus on celebrating love: celebrate the love of the Father, love for yourself, and love for the people you have around you. Everyone can celebrate Valentine’s Day because we have someone who loves us. I hope this encourages you, especially anyone who struggles with this. Feel the warm embrace of the Father.